“The most important thing is that a man respect me!” Ellie proclaimed.
“Do you want a man who appreciates your feelings?” I asked.
“Of course. I want that too,” Ellie added.
“Fine. Stay single and take two lovers.”
If you want to be respected and loved in a romantic relationship, you will need two partners.
One can respect their ideas and follow their example. The other can appreciate your feelings and make plans.
Watch? You can have it all.
Just not at the same time.
Or with the same person.
(Unless it’s a “doormat” that has no voice. Or is so weak. Ewww.)
In a romantic relationship, the greatest intimacy is promoted when one partner feels appreciated for their feelings and the other is respected for their thoughts.
If you want to be respected for the way you think AND appreciated for the way you feel, there is simply no room for another person.
When you voluntarily give up your respectability in a romantic relationship, it means that you choose to have your feelings valued above your thoughts and that you are willing to follow your man as long as it is moral, ethical and legal.
This doesn’t mean you can’t be respected for your thoughts Ever… it just means you choose to have your feelings appreciated first.
When a man values your feelings, you will actually feel respected.
(Think about that for a moment!)
When you don’t feel good about something and you share your feelings with your man…and he “respects” your feelings…he’s actually appreciating you! (Very good, huh?)
When you give your thoughts to a man and he respects your ideas, guess what? You are the man! When a man respects what you think and want… you are the “Hero” of your relationship.
Many times you become competitive with your partner and you don’t know why. The reason is because they both want to tell each other what to do… or they wait for the other person to make the plan!
So when you meet a new man… or if you’re already with someone… decide:
Do you want to be respected for your thoughts and leadership skills in your romantic relationship?
PRAYED:
Do you want to be appreciated for your feelings and are you willing to voluntarily give up your leadership and follow your respected partner?
