While we have strong opinions about the people we interact with at home or at work, you might be surprised to learn that people find it quite difficult to describe themselves. Describing yourself on paper is especially important when it comes to creating your online dating profile or profiles on matchmaking sites.
You are not only expected to describe yourself, but to do so in a way that will attract the right people to show interest or respond positively when you reach the people you care about.
Here are some of the 4 common mistakes to avoid when describing yourself.
1. Play your own trumpet
The purpose of your online profile is to describe your personality, lifestyle, interests and expectations. The idea is to sound like a real human being with an emphasis on sounding genuine. Avoid filling your profile with adjectives or trying to project an exaggerated view of who you are. Nobody likes people who take themselves too seriously. Even if you really are God’s gift to humanity, project a little humility when you write about yourself.
2. Hitting yourself
While humility is always appreciated, there’s no need to berate yourself in an attempt to sound genuine. Mentioning every little physical flaw, personality quirks, family issues (even if it’s a passing reference), fears or frustrations, past failures, and failed relationships should definitely be avoided. There’s no point in rejecting people by sharing an unbalanced view of all the things that didn’t go right in your life.
3. Focusing too much on your material possessions
Even though the world around you is materialistic and people are attracted to money, control your impulse to show off your wealth. Having a profile photo with your fancy supercar in the background or on your Million Dollar yacht sends all the wrong signals and will likely attract people who may be more interested in your wealth. If you are rich, you do not need to mention it either through your profile picture or in your profile writing. You always have the option of evaluating people based on the criteria offered by the matchmaking or dating site you may be using if you are interested in dating or marrying people of similar social status.
4. Not paying attention to spelling and grammar
When writing about yourself, pay attention to spelling and grammar. Having a well-written, coherent profile free of spelling and grammatical errors is a fundamental requirement to create a good first impression. That’s not all, filling your profile description with slang, acronyms, truncated words will convey to people that you are not a serious person worth responding to.
Start treating your online profile seriously and invest the time and effort to avoid these common mistakes if you really want to create an attractive online profile for dating or marriage.
