This is a question that is all too common in the world of modern romance. As painful as his cheating may be, it is possible to get a second chance after he has cheated on you. The only thing that would prevent this from happening is allowing your head to override your heart.
Women are taught that it is important to find a man who respects them. They are also taught that there are few things that display more blatant disrespect than cheating.
The good news is that you are not limited by these teachings. You can decide for yourself if you will be able to forgive and move on.
It can happen? Can you two really get a second chance at love even though he has cheated on you? As long as you both understand that it really does take two people to make or break a relationship and you’re both willing to work to make things right, there’s no reason you can’t. Here are some things to keep in mind as you work toward your second chance at happiness.
1) While it may seem personal to you, it probably wasn’t to him. Men’s affairs are generally not about emotions. It’s not about falling in love. While the fact that he cheated on you can hurt you to the core; that was never his intention. Keep this in mind when deciding whether or not you want a second chance.
2) You can make changes that are likely to prevent you from having an affair in the future. The more you talk about what happened (as painful as it is), the more likely he is to learn some of the main reasons he turned to another woman. Knowing why will help ensure that you are never in that position again. Need more praise? More respect at home? Was sex becoming too predictable? It could be any, all, or none of these things, but you need to find out why to prevent it from happening in the future.
3) Are you willing to risk your heart again? It’s understandable that you guard your heart for a while after it cheats on you. Will you be willing to risk it again when the time comes, or do you feel like you’ll always want to keep something to yourself? If you really want your relationship to have an honest second chance, you’re going to have to give it your all. This includes all of your heart. That means you can’t hold something back in hopes of avoiding future pain.