You want to learn to forgive a cheating husband. She recently discovered that her husband was unfaithful. You have likely been cycling through a wide range of emotions. Everything from sadness to confusion to anger is fine on the surface. She has told you how sorry she is and you can feel her deep regret. He’s determined to save his marriage, but he’s not sure how to get over his infidelity and come to a place of forgiveness. You can if you have the right mindset and an idea of how forgiveness can help you more than it helps your husband.
Understanding how to forgive a cheating husband begins with recognizing that no matter how badly you want to make your adultery go away, you can’t. She cheated on you and now you have to deal with the consequences of that. You must try to come to a place of acceptance. Wishing it hadn’t happened is natural and normal. But it happened and the sooner you can accept that he was unfaithful, the closer you will be to forgiveness.
The key to forgiving a cheating husband is to do it more for yourself than for him. Right now you are juggling a lot of anger and disappointment. You are also questioning what the marriage meant to him and how he could have strayed if he loved you as much as he says she loves you. Men cheat for a myriad of reasons, and most of them have nothing to do with how they feel about their wives. For many men, the act of cheating is all about the physical connection, not the emotional one.
By forgiving him, you will be giving yourself the opportunity to heal. You will release a lot of the negative emotions and find comfort in that. It’s important to recognize that everyone makes mistakes in life, and while it’s a horrendous mistake, it’s forgivable.
The timing on which you grant your forgiveness will be a personal choice. Some women find it easy to forgive quickly because they recognize that the marriage had serious problems and understand why her husband went astray. For other women it takes time to truly find forgiveness, but it’s something they work for every day. If her husband is showing you that he is truly sorry for what happened and wants to be a better partner, let that guide you toward forgiveness. It will help set you on the path to rebuilding her marriage.
