Charisma and personal magnetism are what draws others to you, makes them interested in what you have to say, and helps you become more confident in whatever you pursue. The idea that you have to be outgoing, dynamic, and a leader to have charisma is just a myth. Personal magnetism is what you have inside that attracts others to you. That thing that makes people want to be around you or know more about you. That substance that comes from the depths of you and that makes you more influential and persuasive.
Charisma is the characteristic that enables leaders to influence others and develop followers. It doesn’t matter if your goal in life is to sell, holding the public’s attention when speaking, talking to patients, or educating your children in personal magnetism will help you achieve those goals.
The following are 10 powerful ways to make yourself more interesting and charismatic:
1. Awareness of how you feel: Begin to be more attentive to your actions and reactions to different situations in your life. Make a mental note of how you feel, your reaction, and your body language in different situations. Self-awareness is essential before we can control how others feel or perceive us.
2. Elevate your mood: There isn’t one of us who hasn’t experienced a lift in mood when we meet someone who is happy. A cheerful mood is contagious and a powerful way to make you more magnetic. If you want to improve your mood start exercising. Exercise is a great way to improve how you feel, optimize your health, and improve your longevity. Exercise stimulates the release of endorphins that improve mood. Exercising outdoors will also improve your mood due to sun exposure. Sun exposure will also stimulate the production of vitamin D, which is important in preventing osteoporosis.
3. What’s in it for them: Try to make everyone else feel important. Make them feel like they are the most important person in the room. If you want to be more charismatic, take the time to listen and get to know someone.
4. Flaunt your knowledge: Some say knowledge is sexy. We all have a special knowledge of something. Let others know what excites you, what motivates you to get up every day. Share your ideas and convictions. Show others that you are a leader and have a sense of direction and focus in your life by the way you articulate your passions. Be sure to keep facts and opinions separate to maintain your credibility.
5. Improve your appearance: Be attractive. Personal hygiene, grooming, and the way you dress have a huge impact on how you feel about yourself and how others will perceive you. Dress as best as your financial resources allow. Invest in high quality fabrics and tailoring if you have the financial means. You don’t have to take out a second mortgage or create financial strain to look good. Keep things simple and have your clothes tailored, if necessary, for a stylish look.
6. Show sincere empathy: The simple fact of listening and transmitting empathy will enhance your personal magnetism. If you want to influence others, sincere empathy is probably the most important trait you can display. If people think you don’t understand them, you’ll have a hard time influencing them.
7. Be a storyteller: Everyone loves a good story. Stories make events memorable, aid in learning, and make the storyteller interesting. Some people are natural storytellers and will have a new one to share every time you meet them. Practice telling appropriate stories whenever you can.
8. Make your name a priority: Everyone loves to hear their own name. Try to avoid using your name in every sentence or your conversations will seem very scripted. Focus on saying their name at the introduction and when you’re done talking to them.
9. Show gratitude: Being grateful for what you have is the key to happiness and a cheerful disposition, both of which make you more attractive to others.
10. Add a little humor: All people like someone who makes them laugh. Some people are naturally funny or witty. Learn your personal style for using humor and use it regularly in appropriate situations.
Start attracting more opportunities, great people, and success by following these 10 tips. The long term benefits will be a happier, healthier and more fulfilling life.