Like life itself, marriage has its ups and downs. When you find yourself saying “I’m so unhappy in my marriage,” there ARE things you can do to find happiness again.
As with any relationship, there are things you can do right now to start changing your marriage, for the better.
If the two of you don’t agree on something, which happens all too often in marriages, stay calm. Don’t fight about it: all it does is raise your blood pressure and make you even more nervous. This leads to further aggravation and worse arguments or even fights.
Try to stay calm, as much as possible. Your reaction to what your spouse does or says can trigger an explosive reaction or you can keep your cool in your situation.
When you are in a marriage, there is no right or wrong. One person simply cannot be in control of everything, all the time. This is not how relationships of any kind work. Both should have the same control.
When we get angry, very bad and hurtful words are said. Try not to let these words get to you, if they come out. Words spoken in anger are nothing more than speaking in anger. They regret it almost immediately, but the pain they cause takes a long time to heal.
To bring happiness back to your marriage, take some time. By taking the time to do something for yourself, you’ll feel more at ease and relieve some of the tension you’re feeling.
Do something with your spouse or children, if you have them. This will also take away some of the stress. The more physical activity you can do, the better you will feel. This is also a great way to release the buildup of anger and stress in the marriage.
Every marriage has its good and bad points. When you’re in an unhappy marriage, it’s very easy to see only the bad things about it. Take a closer look and see how many good things your marriage has. You may be surprised!
Focus on the good qualities of your marriage. By thinking about the good things, you will bring positive energy into your marriage. The more you can do this, the happier you will feel.
Tell your spouse that you love him. Give them a hug and a kiss. There are so many studies that prove that physical contact in relationships helps keep them happy and strong.
Remember what it was like when you first got married. Those feelings don’t go away, they just get buried sometimes under boredom and stress, leaving both of you feeling unloved, adding to the unhappiness in the marriage.
Take care of yourself more: do the things you love. Relax as much as possible. Let your mind wander back to the good old days of your marriage. THERE ARE good times, though you may have to do some thinking to remember them right now. The more you can remember, the more you will see that this is just a phase your marriage is going through, as you WILL find happiness in your marriage again.
