There have been a number of online news articles and one or two books published on “everyday sex.” In one experiment, a couple decided to have sex every day for a year and document their experience. Other couples have also tried similar experiments in the hope that they would solidify their marriage.
Well, what about sex every day for a Christian marriage?
There are two different sides to this answer.
- No, this is not a healthy aspect of Christian intimacy and should not be practiced. Now this point of view compares everyday sex to the examples above about the couple who wrote the book and other couples who reported trying it. The reasons why Christians should avoid this is because it is “forced intimacy.” In other words, there are many couples who simply aren’t physically or mentally comfortable with being sexually intimate on a daily basis. Well, in keeping with the trend of everyday intimacy, couples should be forcing themselves to have sex with each other. Obviously one can see that this is not a Christian value and should be avoided.
- Yes, having sex every day can be very healthy for a married Christian couple. This point of view can also be valid in the following context. Let’s say both husband and wife are very sexually active. That is, both want to practice this wonderful gift as often as possible. Daily sex could work very well for this type of married Christian couple. It wouldn’t be a burden and would only increase their intimacy and ultimately their marriage. Many times sexually active Christians find it difficult to have sex as often as they want. What will happen is that once they get out of the groove of intimacy, they will find it hard to get back into it, so much so that some couples get frustrated and end up not having sex at all! This happens more times than one would think, and it often happens with couples who have had a pleasurable sex life earlier in their marriage. So for these people, daily intimacy could be the solution to staying in that intimate rhythm that they need to be in to help maintain a healthy and intimate marriage.
Let’s remember that sex is a celebration and really should be practiced as often as possible, based on each married individual’s comfort level. Sometimes that can mean just once a month. Other times that very well could mean every day. It all depends on the couple.
