If you look at the families you know, chances are the children are all different, with different looks and natures than their brothers and sisters. Very often you will notice a pattern according to your position in the family. The eldest may be more thoughtful and reserved, the middle child quite different, while the youngest may be outgoing, fearless and adventurous.
At one point, my husband decided that he would run a stable and pony riding center. The foster children had returned to their mother, who had later remarried, so we only had 3 children again. The children thrived on the fresh air and freedom, but my youngest daughter, then 4, was not afraid and if anyone sat her on any of the horses or ponies she would happily ride herself across the field. thelwell style.
On another occasion, not being outdone by the older children, she climbed onto the scaffolding in the adjacent block of flats swinging to the next railing, and went up and up, but could not get down because her legs would not reach the rungs; my husband had to rescue her quickly. She would climb anywhere and everywhere without fear. Whereas my older daughter was much more afraid of horses and my son didn’t go near them and was much happier on his bike. This illustrates how different children can be.
Different dynamics within the family group can also affect the characteristics of your children. For example, you may be more strict with your first child as he adjusts to parenthood, while later you may be more relaxed. The presence of other children or whether you have more or less time to spend with them can also make a difference. Plus of course everyone has their own traits and there is the age old question of nature or nurture. His main job as a parent is to develop a child’s own strengths and guide him to be the best he can be; and become healthy and happy adults, responsible for their own actions.
It would be a boring world if we were all the same, imagine if we all thought the same and acted the same. We would all be looking for the same jobs. Soon you will learn to understand your little ones and you will know how they will react. Accept their differences and enjoy their different personalities, help them develop in their own way and become members of a diverse society.
