When you’re trying to be friends with your ex-girlfriend, you may feel a sense of dread when a birthday or holiday is coming up. You know you need to give him a gift, but you don’t want to send him the wrong message.
The type of gift you give your ex girlfriend is crucial and depends on many factors. Are you in a new relationship? Do you still have feelings for her? Do you want to get back together?
If you want to get your ex back, then your current selection is even more important. Follow these pros and cons tips for great ideas.
Select a gift based on something she said. Do you remember her saying something that she really likes? She maybe she ever mentioned her favorite book or movie of hers from her childhood. She maybe she said something she wanted but she would never buy for herself. When you give her this type of gift, she will be impressed with your memory and thoughtfulness.
Don’t buy her lingerie or other sexy things. These are too suggestive for an ex boyfriend to give and will make her uncomfortable.
Pick something you like. When many people give gifts, they often select a gift based on their own tastes rather than those of the recipient. When you choose something based on her likes, she will realize that you care about her.
Don’t send her flowers or give her a gift card. In most cases, these gifts are generic. It’s obvious that you didn’t think much about what you wanted to get him. It could also mean a last-minute gift that doesn’t make her feel special.
Buy something that reminds you of something you did as a couple. A CD from a concert you went to with her or a night at her favorite restaurant are things that might make her think basically of you.
Don’t give him a joke gift. You may think it’s funny, but it probably won’t. In fact, you’ll have a hard time knowing what to think about this kind of gift, which isn’t really the effect you want to have.
