Most people, whose lovers become exes, think that they are victims of their ego. They try to blame the final breakup on their exes. This is probably what defense mechanism means in psychological terms.
When you think that your ex is stubborn, stubborn and selfish, it implies three possibilities.
One, you assume that all the blame for causing the breakup rests with your ex and that you remained silent and compliant the entire time and that you are a victim of your ex’s stubbornness.
Two, that you also made a mistake that you honestly admit, but your ex thinks they made no mistake at all.
Three, and this is where ego comes in in the real sense, your ex internally feels like they made a mistake, either partially or totally, that contributed to the breakup, but refuses to openly admit it because of an ego problem. Since he has already taken a step or expressed an opinion, he considers it an insult to go back on him.
When a couple can’t reconcile with their ex’s attitude, they start thinking about how to break their ex’s ego.
And what does the word ‘break’ imply? Doesn’t this suggest that the so-called ‘victim’ is also an egoist in the sense that she can’t or doesn’t want to see the ex’s point of view or can’t empathize with him/her? Doesn’t it imply that despite being a ‘victim’, you are determined to ‘break’ your ex’s will? What if your ex has the same opinion about you? What if your ex thinks he/she is a victim of your arrogance?
Before passing judgment on your ex, you must first be clear about your own attitude. You must do a very objective and dispassionate introspection that, in fact, he/she is an egoist and you are not.
Once you honestly believe that your ex doesn’t want to admit their mistake, know that no amount of argument will convince them to admit it. This is what the ego is.
I think the best thing is not to have ill will against your ex. You must not think in terms of ‘breaking’ his ego. Prayers, they say, can move mountains. It doesn’t matter if you don’t believe in prayers etc. But you can’t argue that the vibrations generated by FOCUSED thoughts, affirmations, whether positive or negative, can act powerfully. They are somewhat touching and contagious. Our thoughts are transmitted to those we think about.
The best way to ‘break’ your ex’s ego is to remain calm, caring, forgiving and positive. In practical terms, it means that you can tell your ex; Okay, if we’re not lovers, we can still be friends. For your part, you should always be honest, helpful, and friendly with your ex. With a little patience, his ego will surely break.
