Your girlfriend says she needs to find herself. That’s one of those baffling things women say that men can’t quite understand. Does it mean that she is just taking a step back from the relationship so she can focus on her own needs? Is it a sign that she is so in love with you that she feels like she is losing her own identity or is it something else? Unfortunately, when a woman says that she needs to find herself, she means that she is being nice by telling you that she is not happy anymore or that she does not feel fulfilled in her relationship with you. If your girlfriend tells you that she needs some time or space to figure things out, you must fight back if you have any hope of salvaging her relationship.
When your girlfriend says that she needs to find herself, you should take that statement very seriously. If you tell her that she is being silly or overly dramatic, you will damage your connection with her in a very lasting way. She will feel that her voice is not heard and she will feel you for not understanding her needs. In turn, her desire to find herself will lead to an eventual breakup and whatever future you’ve been planning will never come to pass.
Being considerate and compassionate during this time will go a long way toward helping her feel closer to you again. If you tell her that you understand that she needs to find herself, she’ll probably be pleasantly surprised. She will feel respected and valued as a woman and as a couple. She will see you as someone who truly wants what is best for her, even if it doesn’t seem like what is best for you.
Encourage her to explore her life on her own for a while. Don’t bring up the idea of a breakup at all. Let him set the pace for how much time he needs and how he uses that time. Keep in touch with her while the two of you explore your lives separately. Ask him questions about how he is doing and what is happening in his life. Invest in those conversations and take an interest in how he feels.
If you show your girlfriend that you can be a supportive and supportive friend during this process, she will feel closer to you. In many cases a woman seeks to find herself when she feels abandoned by her man. If you work to be a better match for her by being kinder and considerate of her, she’ll reconsider her decision to find herself. It is possible that she realizes that she is at her best when she is with you.
